I was poking around on Facebook without actually poking anybody when I came across a conversation thread about my SBM post.
At least 1 reader right nuh: Are you really gonna talk about that damn post again Slim?
Me: You shut your mouth when you’re talkin’ to me.
That 1 reader: Sorry…
So yeah, I came across this thread where none of the people chatting it up about “the author” knew that he (me) was following along. Being the appreciative and sometimes sensitive intellectual that I am, I chimed in saying who I was, that I didn’t mind the criticism, and that I thought the shots/opinions of one particular chick were foolish.
She didn’t like that very much.
Next thing you know I’m being called a novice writer, unprofessional and told that other people thought the post was wack via FB likes that supported her comment. Not gonna lie, I was irritated. It wasn’t because someone(s) dissented on the post. It happens all the time and particularly this past Monday. My gripe was with the shock that I’d have the audacity to respond to comments being made about me and what I wrote. My question in response to this situation was simple:
What the f*ck did you expect?
As a blogger, writer, persona, or whatever you wanna call me, I understand that by posting something publicly that I’m opening myself up to criticism. It’s the nature of the beast and blogging most certainly isn’t for the weak of heart and thin-skinned. It’s time, energy, and effort that very well may go unnoticed. My thing with this is that, whether you’re a blogger , lurker, or commenter, once you click submit and let your words hit the internet you’re automatically opening yourself up to a response from whoever sees it and feels any type of way. This includes the originator of whatever it is you’re talking about.
There’s this idea floating around that authors aren’t supposed to respond to comments on their work. That’s 100% complete bullsh*t. The exception to this would be if the author is writing for a publication that has specifically stated that contributors are not allowed to respond to comments. When someone is paying you, personal rights only go as far as what’s been agreed upon.
Bloggers are regular people. We have feelings, emotions, and responses to comments made about us and our work just like anybody else. Unless someone is monetarily compensating us or we signed an agreement, we have a right to respond to whatever we want and however we want despite what the consequences may be.
If you call me a piece of sh*t, I have the right to chime in and say the same. If you think I made a weak argument, I have the right to agree, disagree, or provide clarity on what I wrote. Isn’t that what freedom of speech is about?
It’s hard to condense every thought into 1,000 words or less because you know people will lose interest otherwise. Key points are gonna get left out strategically, haphazardly, or accidentally. It’s unavoidable. But whatever the case, please don’t get offended or upset that the author responded to you in the same tone that you let your thoughts hit the e-air. You’re most certainly entitled to your opinion. You’re also most certainly opening yourself up to rebuttals and thoughts from the rest of the world.
If I were a painter or sculptor that had people pay to see my exhibit, I’d understand public criticism with the expectation of no rebuttal. But the reality with blogs and similar websites is that you didn’t have to take money out of your wallet or swipe your card. If you’re accessing free content, your typed words are not immune to a response from the provider of the content that your responding to. That person may get at you and you need to be prepared for it.
I really wish people got this because I see it happen way too often. A lot of bloggers and writers may come off as assholes in their replies to readers, but it’s their prerogative. If they wanna destroy their reputations by belittling those that have voiced opinions, then that’s on them. Just don’t expect that because you clicked a link or wrote something away from the site that the person won’t see your words and respond because it’s “unprofessional.” It’s a 2-way street. You each have a lane and it doesn’t say anywhere that the commenter controls the road. Reality is a b*tch and sometimes she’ll slap you back. I’m just saying.
Keeping it ridiculously real and pushing along for 30 posts in 30 days,