Some people treat popular bloggers like celebrities. They put them up on a pedastal and make a lot of “I wish” comments when thinking about them. Stuff like this:
You seem so free. I wish I could write and be expressive like you. I wish I could make Youtube videos like you. I wish I could end up on a tv show like you. I wish I had 7000 followers and 7000 subscribers. I wish people cared as much about what I have to say as much as they do you. I wish I could pursue my dreams like you. I wish I was in a happy relationship/marriage just like you.
I’ve gotten some of these compliments. I say that because that’s what I take them as, and I’m always appreciative. It’s great to have people respect and admire the work you do — rather, the work they see. What people fail to realize is that they follow what appears to be a finished product. They don’t see the years of blood, sweat, and tears that came before the blogger or celebrity “made it.” They don’t see the late nights. They don’t see the agonizing over what works and what doesn’t. The wishers don’t see the self-doubt, envy, and destructive thoughts that run through the heads of those they esteem to be.
I see people that have reached their destination (at least for the time being) while I’m still looking at mile markers. I email them to explain my situation and ask how I can improve. Sometimes they respond positively. Sometimes they don’t respond at all. But regardless of their response, I don’t wish to have their lives. I just wish to have a little guidance since they already know the bumps and turns in the road.
A lot of the folks that “make it” to the next level — bloggers and otherwise — soak up the compliments, share them on Facebook and retweet them on Twitter. They bask in the praise and accomplishment, but they don’t take the time to give anything back and it irks me. They allow themselves to get filled up with words of how great they are. Yet, they keep it moving without even a glance into their rearview. They’re confident and they’ve convinced themselves that they’re great. But they forget one thing:
You’re not great if you don’t show somebody else how.
Success and greatness are two different things. You can achieve all your goals. You can live comfortably and field offers for new opportunities every day. You can have the admiration of thousands or millions because of the path you’ve walked. But if you don’t take the time to show that you’ve went through or are going through the same things your admirers have, you’re not great. You’re selfish. You’re full of yourself. And if that’s the type of person you are, I want nothing to do with you.
Yes, people may eat up your words or onscreen display. But just understand this:
True greatness is in showing others how to achieve the same.
If you’re one of the people that constantly aspires to have what someone else has, whether it be writing talent, acting ability, or the skill to win influence, understand that you’re capable of the same with some hard work. Understand that the same people you look up to had the same thoughts you’re going through today. Understand that they’ve dealt with a bunch of insecurities and obstacles, but all you see is the end result.
For someone like myself that’s still aspiring, I’m no different than the person that sits next to you in class or at work. I wake up to go to a 9-5. It just happens to be that I’ve worked hard to develop a separate talent, and now people are taking notice. I still have a mother I need to check in with to make sure her health is in order. I still mourn the loss of my father more than three years ago. I still have skeletons in my closet that won’t disappear no matter how much spring cleaning I do. I still wake up on Monday mornings and wonder if I’m using my God-given talents to the best of my ability.
Many of the people you look up to are no different. They just don’t put it out there because they have an image to maintain and a reputation to uphold. You don’t need to aspire to be like anybody else or possess what they posess.
You need to aspire to be the best person you’re capable of and ask questions along the way. If your “inspiration” doesn’t respond, there’s always somebody else a lot closer to you than you think that’s willing to lift you as you climb. Don’t let a blogger or anybody else tell or show you differently. We’re all human and flawed. And with that being the commonality, you can bet they thought the same thing you’re thinking right now.
Bloggers are people, not Gods. Stop worshipping false idols.
Keeping It Positively Gangstah,