On Friday, I mentioned how I’m thinking more and more about being able to quit my day job and focus on my passions — running websites, career coaching, and writing to name a few — on a full-time basis. I spent a good portion of the weekend thinking about a conversation I had with my old boss last week about my career progression and what it’ll take to get to the point of being able to say no to the (proverbial) dress shirt. I also found myself thinking about a book I read a month ago titled Become Your Own Boss in 12 Months: A Month-by-Month Guide to a Business That Works by Melinda Emerson aka SmallBizLady. One of the first things she talks about is getting your life plan in order before you start strolling down Entrepreneurial Lane (My paraphrase). I’ve been writing here and everywhere about bits and pieces of my life. And to be frank, it’s been as fragmented in my mind as it has online.
So yeah, I’ve been a think think thinking. What is the theme of everything I want to achieve? What is the fundamental value driving me forward? What’s the one thing that makes me uncomfortable whenever it’s compromised? How can I use this to marry together all my interests and goals into a sustainable life plan? I keep coming back to one thing:
Freedom is what makes me want to work for myself. It’s what makes me look forward to weeknights and weekends. It’s why I eat what I eat, spend the way I spend, and live the way I live. It’s why I take on so many projects that have nothing to do with what I do by day. It’s why my friends can’t get me to go out when they hit me up last minute. It’s why I crave alone time even when life is telling me I’m missing it. I love doing things on my own terms. Constraints make me green with rage.
I came to a realization though. Much of my rebellion against anything that felt like shackles has been to my detriment or — at the very least — put me at a disadvantage. I spent more than I should’ve because I could. I ate what I wanted when I wanted because I could. I laid on the couch when I wanted to lay on the couch because I could. I procrastinated because I could. How’d that work out for me?
I was the unhealthiest I’d been in some time. A good chunk of my disposable income went into things that cause chunkiness. I found myself sliding back into the habit of swipe now, dread later. The result? I’m not in a position to quit the day job flow anytime soon, I always just miss the train, and I have to wear a shirt in the ocean…which means I can’t go on vacation until I can be shirtless…which means I can’t Instagram myself on a beach or change my avatar to a summer picture that wasn’t taken in 0-something. Do you know how much this hurts my e-steem?
And as unpleasant as all this sounds, I feel pretty good. I come off positive here and elsewhere because I’m finally getting a grip on what needs to be done for me to achieve MY freedom. It’s about more than blog posts and maintaining an internet presence that opens doors. It’s about a total change in my lifestyle that makes sense now more than ever. (Well, that and I still have my track spikes in my trunk from college because I haven’t completely given up on my dream of charging down the runway a few more times. Jesus be a hamstring.)
What does this all mean in the context of TRSJ? It means you’ll get more content from me, even if that means a post arriving on the weekend. I’m excited about this lifestyle transition I’m going through. I’m even more excited about having the opportunity to share it with you. I’ve already got a post lined up about how I almost threw my scale out the window.
As for the career stuff? You can send me questions by using the contact form. Following the advice from Afrobella as mentioned in my Friday post, I’ll just say that I have something awesome planned that should be coming to fruition in the next 30-60 days. Today, I have a life plan. Everything I do going forward is just part of it.
When you look forward, how do you define YOUR freedom? Have you had an epiphany that led to a complete lifestyle change? If so, what was it? Let me know in the comments.
Change for the Win,